), but the thought of matching up with him socially makes me so anxiety-riddled, I think I may have to nix it. Introvert individuals are defined as quiet, reserved, and thoughtful; those who like to keep to themselves. After years of practice, I can be easy breezy and bubbly for about 20 minutes at a time (after which point I become exhausted and begin writing blog posts in my head). Unfortunately, people with introvert personalities find it difficult to express their emotions and how they feel. Psychology today has a good blog, called Introvertâs Corner. Yes, yes, yes, all of this! And Hermione is a STELLAR example of an introvert. Some of Jane Austenâs characters. Click to tweet. Typically, introverted men are viewed as charming, intelligent, and mysterious. I think one major project with trying to create more introverted female characters in the media is the backlash that inevitably comes from women. Thank you so much for your blog and everyoneâs comments. Ug. Being an introvert is a classic trait exhibited by beta females; they usually keep to themselves in a group, talking only when the need arises. I actually find solace in spending time with my Persian cat. The terms introversion and extroversion (also often spelled extraversion) were popularized through the work of Carl Jung and later became central ⦠Introversion indicates one end of the scale, while extroversion represents the other end. I have been accused of being âcoldâ and âstandoffishâ because I donât hang all over men I barely know or jump into their laps or show excessive affection in public. If the girl needs to curl up with coffee, a good book, or even just a Netflix, let her. When I was younger I often wondered what was wrong with me, as I found it extremely difficult to socialise in big groups and I stayed quiet most of the time. When Iâm happy Iâm fine, if Iâm exhausted â yuck. I hope that you find healing. They help you through complicated and difficult love situations like deciphering mixed signals, getting over a breakup, or anything else you’re worried about. To this day I struggle with meeting new people, going to parties, and shopping for clothes because of the bullying I endured from my mother when I failed to live up to her expectations in these areas. That doesn’t mean you should never introduce her to your friends and family, but doing it all at once can be overwhelming for her. Definite chemistry, but I am TERRIFIED of what dating him would mean. Until now Iâve not really understood what it means to be an introvert. Actually, if you think about it, there definitely are introverted heroines in literature, if not in popular media. 1. I had one once. In order to make way for our louder, more extroverted alter ego, we must bury a part of ourselves. She was a humanitarianâa goodwill ambassador of UNICEF. I also related well to Janâs middle child frustrations, though as an introvert, feeling invisible was kind of good. This is what we are up against: psychiatry/psychology matching socities preferences with invented disorders that match what is acceptable and what isnât. Hi Laura. This may sound heavily laced with the âgreen eyed monsterâ and in truth it is in 1 part, but its also 2 parts observation and conversation. Iâm wondering how many other introverts out there also love having their homes to themselves, and are repelled by the mere thought of someone moving in. Introverts turn inward mentally. All or nothing with introverts, so we are great at making decisions. Ive been married to an extrovert for almost 15 years, and if anything, I am trying to escape him. Marciaâs character on The Brady Bunch wasnât like that as I recall it (drama) but she definitely wasnât studious like Jan. My favorite introverted film character is Amelie, a daydreamy, young french woman who is totally loveable. I embrace authenticity and calm environments. Thatâs what weâll be covering today. So, Iâm grateful for you for writing this. These women are the epitome of bubbly, extroverted charm. He is definitely interested, I am definitely interested (and itâs been over 5 years since Iâve had a boyfriend! Smirking: I guess it was probably my strong powers of observation (which IMHO, is one of the gifts of being introverted!) I have had this specific experience. Thank you this blog is helping me to seek and enjoy my solitude without guilt. 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I sometimes feel like there should be an in-depth book about Introverted Women, kind of like a manual on how one actually functions in this Worldâ¦. Required fields are marked *, Introverts often struggle with feeling guilty. If youâre an introvert and you feel down about it, this article will make you feel better. It is a harder path to take, however. They hint at things, and go through the dating/mating process in a very passive-aggressive way. Thereâs even a friend who asked me frankly, why are you so quiet? But, they are also viewed as powerful, dominant, and aloof. Cain leapt ⦠Iâve seen it for whole my life, but i understand more when i know who i am. In any case, I doubt they would find her actions endearing. However, I am an introvert, and I just had to tell you that your bit about the ability to be an extrovert for 20 minutes (albeit at a steep price) literally made me laugh aloud. Being self-aware, understanding personal strengths and weaknesses, not needing to impress others, appreciating quality relationships and other qualities make introverts honest.Theyâre honest about what they do, what they think about, how they feel, and they give honest feedback. Iâd be perfectly happy if I spent Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. And not to mention difficult to please, especially to the extrovert. Now, compare them with introverted television heroines, such as ⦠ummm ⦠err ⦠gimme a second ⦠hmmm ⦠(see where Iâm going with this?). She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun. Thank goodness you are doing this. Too much drama. You immediately connect with an awesome coach on text or over the phone in minutes. Introversion is one of the major personality traitsidentified in many theories of personality. Control over emotions. Im starting to value the capacity for building true friendships (rather than expanding social networks) that seems inherent with introversion. If I donât follow my instincts and do whatever I can to get that time out, I get physically ill. I often find myself in a position where I feel obligated to pretend to be extroverted, and then feel oddly guilty if I fight that obligation. #1 You like being social. Iâm so very happy that this blog exists and others in the world can relate, Iâm saddened that you all have had to endure it as well, but again glad Iâm not alone. I had extroverted friends and back then, trying to keep up with them was a full time job. My partner is understanding, but in more of a âoh, sheâs just like thatâ way â he wouldnât know what introversion or extroversion was. Introvert personality traits are characterized by purposefulness. I dont make excuses anymore for taking it â its as crucial for my wellbeing as sleep and would I apologise for needing sleep? The 7 Greatest Strengths of an Introvert What others might call weakness is an introvert's greatest strength. I can relate. Okay, rant done. And this was nice content and definitely will be useful for many people. Her hairdresser suggested that she go blonde to make a change, might help lift her mood. I chuckled and smiled, but stood firm, stating yep thatâs right, Iâm not a social butterfly and damn proud of it, but the underlining message of âweâre right and something is definitely wrong with youâ was quite prevalent. If you want to know what she’s feeling, you need to ask. It’s not just excuses to get out of parties — it’s taking headphones along on public transportation so she has an out from casual conversation. I spent about 3 1/2 years with emotions ranging from despair and utter forlornness to instant, hot anger and rage. I tried, honestly I did. 21. Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. They werenât better actors than me (introverts can be actors, as you say with Audrey Hepburn, since they bring a greater emotional depth and insight to their roles), they were just more bubbly and likeable, even to directors! Introverts arenât hasty, but they do understand the âlet go of the things â and people â that arenât serving youâ mantra well. An introvert woman is naturally hard to crack. Introverts, his basic definition said, prefer minimally stimulating environments, and they need time alone to recharge. To an introverted woman, real friendships are priceless. They know when to cut their losses with a relationship. She favors small groups over large. But I know who I am, so I knew what I wanted, and once I spotted him, it was a done deal (engaged in 3 months flat). When it comes to an introverted woman, it’s just better if you make the first move. For me the key is to seek out other introverts- I can be myself with them and we can better understand each others way of communicating. Sometimes introverts make long pauses before they answer back. Exhausting. Eleanor from Sense and Sensibility. It’s about really knowing a few people she can actually trust rather than having a long list of “friends” that she can’t really count on. Your voice will always be heard. even though the guy who said this comment obviously meant well, and it is the right solution but at the same time it bothers me, pisses me off, because a lot of people are stupid and delusional to the fact that being very introverted, or just shy, quiet, awkward is thousands, millions of times worse for guys, men than it is for women in regards to the dating/mating game, he said: First Date Checklist for Introverted Women, How to Let Down Your Wall Around Men You Like, Why Dating is So Hard For Introverted Women, 6 Crucial Self-Care Tips For Introverted Women, The Challenges of Being An Introverted Woman Infographic, http://highlysensitive.org/introverted-shy-highly-sensitive-arts/, How Introverts Can Stop Overthinking Dating, Why The End Of December Is So Hard For Introvert Overachievers, Introvert's Career Perspective: 7 Jobs You Can Do Alone, Introvert Tips to Build Friendships On Zoom, How to Deal With an Eating Disorder as an Introvert, How Introverts Can Make Real Friends Online, An Introvert's Guide: How to Make Your Solo Hiking Adventure Safe and Exciting, Why Introverts Feel Alone, Even With Other People, For Introverts Hiding Who They Really Are, Introverts: Give Your Energy To People Who Deserve It, Wedding Day Survival Tips For Introvert Brides And Grooms, 3 Ways Introverts Can Make Friends In a Pandemic, 6 Ways An Introvert Can Enjoy Winter, If You're Not a Winter Person, How Introverts Can Easily Defend a Dissertation, Handling The Social Impacts Of Living With A Disability As An Introvert. She was theatrical, a ballerina. I cannot tell you how I laughed with joy at this comment about living alone, not being able to âstandâ marriage and remaining child free! I think you make an excellent point, though I can tell you being stoic and aloof doesnât always work for the rest of us like it works for Clint Eastwood. Just for the sake of âminglingâ, âcoming out of my shellâ and just for the sake of appearing to be outgoing, therefore trying my hardest to mask and may be even kill my introversion! Introverted women wanting to be extroverts. They enjoy solitary activities and thrive on quietness and introspection. I would love to see a book on this topic. In my late 40s now and still stumping the world by choosing to relish in my solitude, a few good friends and gloriously free status. Most female introverts try to be more extroverted, because they are not comfortable with others viewing them as cold, dominant, and disinterested. BUT no, thatâs considered too dominant and aggressive. If you spend the day with other people, she may want to spend the next day lounging at home. Here I am now, solo, middle-aged and having to recover and rely on the introvertâs natural superpowers to be alone even when I want companionship. Happily, women actually love introverted men. I have _never_ wanted to be (or even to know) a Marcia Brady clone. Unless youâre in Finland or East Asia, introverted females are largely undervalued. Dorothea from Middlemarch. And, like Hepburn, we can be radiantly beautiful as well. The hair colour DOES make a big difference to how you are perceived. A year ago I read Susan Cainâs Quiet, and the pieces came together like a jigsaw. Can you imagine how people might react if it was grandma on the roof? Must be a bunch of us like this out there. That doesn’t mean her mind is empty — she’s more likely to gather her thoughts and reflect on her surroundings quietly until you ask her to share what she’s thinking. An introverted man has several qualities that make him more likely to be honest. Iâm like yeah, after youâve insulted me incessantly, and publicly, and Iâve tolerated it quietly and calmly, do you finally come to the realization that me not wanting to run my mouth isnât necessarily a negative. Introvert narcissists are often difficult to spot, and yet can carry the same self-conceit and negative contagion as ⦠She’s not quiet because she’s afraid that her thoughts aren’t important, and she doesn’t shy away from socializing out of a fear of rejection. But I am an introverted woman. And, maybe this, more than anything is the real issue. We are so damn interestingâ¦hahahaha. Sheâs always in the library! I really enjoy living on my own and am realising that my alone time is becoming a precious comodity, for who knows, I may end up marrying and having kids. ð. Thank you for the wonderful blog. (Also as far as introverted women on tv goes, I think that Rory Gilmore on Gilmore Girls is an introvert, since sheâs always reading. Introverts like to go out occasionally, but not all the time. At 32 I am now discovering who I am, and that it is nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes I worry I have a touch of social anxiety but the greater part of me says that its just a symptom of being too run down with forced socialising. No, Iâm not chatty cathy and guess what I actually come to work to get some WORK done, but alas again, thatâs not considered a positive. In our culture, it is implied that talkative, extroverted females are the norm, while quiet women mostly belong in monasteries and silent films. It takes character, i think, to set boundaries and say âNo.â. DMCA Policy ; ). I notice that introverts and extroverts pair up because the extrovert is good at initiating the interactions, dates, etc. She’s not interested in popularity. I notice everything too. I also wanted to remark on your comment about introverted men vs. women. And whatever she did, it was always âbecause she caredâ and/or I hadnât done it quite right. ð Itâs very soothing. I get hit on way more as a brunette, donât believe the hype. I too am an introvert and my mother is highly an extrovert. Introverts listen before they speak. They bring peace into my life. Sadly, that approach to dating, and life, is very often viewed as dominant, aggressive, & unapologetic. Though probably to a lesser degree than letâs say in The States. to each her own. Itâs a hilarious (and yet awful for me) comedic situation. N you know what surprises me lately? Ohhhh..Iâm so happy to have found this blog. I am single in my mid-20âs and have gone back to living on my own. ð, Thank you again to everyoneâs comments ð, Rose, I love how you said your introversion has âblossomedâ â great choice of words! Thanks, Esther. After being called everything from âweirdâ, âcomplexâ, âmoodyâ, âarrogantâ and âshyâ, to ânervousâ, in junior high and bombarded with highly intrusive questions and hurtful and ludicrous statements like âwhy are so quiet?â, âwhy are you so gloomy?â, âwhy are you so serious?â, âitâs good to have friendsâ, âsmile and the world smiles with youâ, âyou should come out of your shellâ, âwe are all here for youâ etc., I developed this reputation among a couple of my highly extroverted classmates in college (some of whom actually became my close friends), for being crazy (in a hilarious way) and a âgoofballâ. All my family are extroverts and had/have little understanding of why I behave the way I do. Many people wrongly envision female introverts as pasty white spinster types who own at least three cats. (The term extrovert is now used more commonly than extravert.) Your email address will not be published. I think that it is fair to say that ânormalâ is largely judged by what happens to be acceptable and common in society. I consider myself an introvert and itâs only recently Iâve started to embrace it. All of my academic achievement, excelling in piano, and so on just werenât important if I didnât have that social element and girly obsession with my appearance to others. It drove me nuts. Black female introverts face an additional layer of doubts when they donât display characteristics the majority expects. Great literature has some amazing introverted heroines. Also, introvert personality traits include developed imagination. I am so scared Iâm never going to get over this and it will intensify. Thanks for putting that into words. I envied how they always knew what to say and when to say it. I think introverted women are swell and make great friends. Hence, I sometimes, couldnât afford to retreat into my own personal space, to get away from highly energy draining social situations! Buh bye. Here are tips to buil. Iâve had the whole office sit in a meeting one day and analyze my personality making jokes about not being able to socialize. As I have grown older, I have become much more comfortable with and proud of my true personality, namely a Highly Sensitive Introvert, coupled with a little bit of private Extroversion! Oh well too late now. Every Cosmo article I read pushes the idea that women constantly want to talk more than their male partners, when it has never been true for me or a lot of my friends. Introversion is a personality trait characterized by a focus on internal feelings rather than on external sources of stimulation. Itâs quite a struggle to live in surroundings that are ultra extroverted as I do. So don’t just assume she’s not interested. . If you like me, we should go out sometimeâ. I just smiled at that time, but at some occasions we had short nice conversations about politics and society and i guess that changes the way he sees me. I can completely understand what you mean about being moody after too much socializing. Kelsey Dykstra When you are with an introvert, nothing is lost. Our quiet virtues can easily be overshadowed by the dazzling, in-your-face charm of outgoing women. Super. After all, if I was looking for love in the form of mindless babbling and false enthusiasm, I might as well marry MTV. Love this an introverted woman. Hepburn was known to be introverted and highly sensitive, but she was also highly professional. Ranked by the American Film Institute as the third greatest female screen legend during the Golden Age of Hollywood, Audrey Hepburn was more than just the films she did and the clothes she wore. She needs an escape route. She’ll be more interested in hanging out with you alone than in a group. While other women delight in constant chitchat and colorful banter, we silently wonder if weâre missing a crucial femininity chip. If you're a restless introvert looking for an interesting read, these introvert book picks will help. hope you like it, http://theblazyfox.blogspot.in/2015/09/introversial-discrimination-how-to.html, My comments might seem a little repetitive. Great to hear from you, lovely. At first I refused to believe that was the case, because it made me sound like a horrible, anti-social grump. The problem with classifying Virgos as introverts or extroverts is because they come in both flavors. I can definitely relate to this, especially to feeling jealous of extroverted women. There is THAT much pressure to be extroverted in our culture. ð And sheâs such a great example for girls. The reality is, introverted women come in all shapes, sizes and skin colors. My man-friend relationships last longer when each of us lives separately. As for Twilight, I have to admit that as silly as the story sometimes is, I have a soft spot for it partly because Bella is an introvert who reads Jane Austen. Maybe because I read/watch a fair amount of genre stuff, I think I get to see more of the introverted female role models⦠Iâd describe Xena (the warrior princess) as an introvert who likes to spend quiet time alone â Willow and Fred from the Buffy/Angel franchise too. Some people might see her as lazy and boring, but if she’s an introvert, she needs time to relax if she’s going to be productive. The blonde thing is bs. In fact, the whole Brady Bunch made me want to vomit. I really enjoyed this post. Canât tolerate noise, and idle chatter, or some of the horseshit I hear coming from some peopleâs mouths. And no, I am not the bookish cat lady- in fact, I am actually pretty damn sexy, and I am a dog person. Maybe we need more introverted role models for grown women, too, I mentionâwe have Cain herself to look to, yes, but we need more! Im so glad to find this site as I continue to wrestle with a sense of guilt/inadequacy about my introversion. No matter if some one searches for his vital thing, Instead, she’ll want you to come to her (even though it will make her nervous). We meet while working at a bookstore and now spend a lot of our time reading at home in peace and quiet. My tendency to âplease peopleâ, has led to severe mental exhaustion! In fact, I am of the opinion, that âSilence Is Goldenâ and that the world needs more Introverts, like us! I am an introvert, and thereâs nothing i would change about it. When I attempted, for several decades, to be the ideal, I put energy i,to superficial interactions, flirting, not being âso seriousâ, etc, I got a lot of superficiality back. How do you enjoy winter when you're not a winter person? I am struggling to adjust to a new living situation (have just moved countries, and am living with my partners family who I have just met as we moved here!). Believe me, I know the feeling. The problem beingâ¦I have reverted very far into the depths of introversion. Plus, how to tell where you fall on the spectrum. Instead of having loads of casual friends, she’d rather have just a few really close friends in her life. I am so grateful to have found my tribe and realize that Iâm not a freak. Earning labels from âice queenâ to âstuck-up,â introverted rational women â those with the Thinking preference in the Myers-Briggs system, specifically the INTJ, INTP, ISTJ, and ISTP â have a bad rep for seeming cold and unapproachable. **eyeroll** She was great at pointing out othersâ mistakes while justifying hers as having good motivation. I feel so complete and self-contained I really donât understand this attachment. they are ultimately right because i love my own company anytime and i seldom feel lonely as a result.i also dislike attention and being in a crowd makes me feel lonely than when Im alone.no one around seems to understand me and why i enjoy solitude..but after reading your blog i love myself more and appreciate who i really am with no apologies.thank you for sharing. Ah yes, the classic introvert-introvert stand off where no one is willing to make the first move. Youâre words are so encouraging for me, because as it turns out,I am launching a very special ebook and workbook for single introverted women on June 1st. You canât blame us for feeling ostracized. Yes to all of these comments! This website has been absolutely refreshing and reassuring! And wondering what in the world happened and why I donât matter in anyoneâs life enough to be worthy of more than a peripheral meeting in their busy schedule. It’s not very common for an introvert to voice her thoughts, feelings, and opinions without being prompted to do so. Im a Kenyan and itâs so encouraging to read your blog ..ive finally found out that Im normal.my job requires me to talk and interact with people so at the end of the day Im usually too tired to be in company of others.i hate picking phone calls especially the ones that i know arenât that important.i literally lock myself in the house to get away from my very outgoing friends consequently earning myself the name âsnobâ I had always known that I was quiet, but had never put another name to it. Iâll add it to my list of must reads. They are the type of women we have all wanted to be like at some point. I have however been struggling to be my self without bowing to the demands of my surroundings. Talks a lot about self-acceptance, self-care, etc. Just click here…. ... Because of the nature of our personality type, introverts are susceptible to feeling isolated at times. Lately, there seem to be more introverted females on the silver screen. Western society tends to be more accepting of stoic men than their female counterparts. Nothing negative or wrong about that. Observation, the propensity to analyze. This statement is something I relate to: âWhile other women delight in constant chitchat and colorful banter, we silently wonder if weâre missing a crucial femininity chip.â, Yes, these other women who advertise in one form or another are âhot,â and âstand out.â. And of course, thereâs Hermione Granger, whoâd far prefer to study than to go out partying. It was extremely frustrating. Iâd rather go home and read the book on how to flirt then keep attempting to do it to express interest in gentleman who I find attractive. But, in the 1970s with the Brady girlsâ âhair of goldâ, Farrah Fawcett on Charlieâs Angels & the 1980s with Pam Anderson on Baywatch, blonde was everything it seemed. Meeting and mingling with new people can be a cause for anxiety in an introvert’s life. Introverts tend to observe, take in a lot of information, and think before they speak. Psychologists explain the personality differences between introverts and extroverts, and how that impacts their relationships, careers, and more. Many people wrongly envision female introverts as pasty white spinster types who own at least three cats. Thanks for sharing your experience, Laura! Flirting is for extroverts that dont know how to properly express their feelings. thus he/she needs to be available that in detail, so that thing is maintained over here. As a kid she used to make me feel that being introvert is a sin and she used to make me talk to everyone. It only became a problem when I would have someone wonder why I wasnât wanting to âput myself out thereâ. Weâre going to be⦠listing a huge number of common introvert traits that women find extremely attractive, using fictional heartthrobs as proof that women do love introverts, and eval(ez_write_tag([[320,50],'introvertspring_com-banner-1','ezslot_3',138,'0','0']));eval(ez_write_tag([[320,50],'introvertspring_com-banner-1','ezslot_4',138,'0','1'])); Itâs hard to imagine that Hepburnâs true personality was so different from the extroverted characters she played. Its lovely to read these and learn that I am just a different type of normal. I have been here a year, but havenât taken the time to see most of my friendsâ¦who live about 30 miles awayâ¦certainly doable. Iâve seen both movies and read the first book. And itâs possible that Joan Watson on Elementary is an introvert too, since she seems to spend most of her free time in bed reading and is quite smart without feeling the need to be bubbly. I know it sounds horribleâ¦but I leave with a migraine â from some crowded networking/mingling events, where there is non-stop drinking and such superficial attitudes. Sometimes I hate being an introvert, but honestly, I think it sets me apart. Here's how introverts can make REAL friends online. One said gentleman who did like me â initially- has since moved on to the extroverted, flirtatious, bubbly woman. Thank you for sharing your struggle to adjust to your new environment. Nothing I ever did was even close to right. Itâs not! I say . Do whatever you can to take the pressure off, because she’ll be stressed enough as it is. Thanks. The whole blonde obsession of the 1970s was awful. I have nothing against extroverted or introverted women. Although this approach can sometimes be disappointing- seeming introverts turn out to be not interested in talking to ME, that sort of thing) but on balance it has been a successful strategy for making new friends. 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