Sounds a nightmare, and being pregnant again you must be very tired.I had 3 children, and what 's coming across is that your home is not child proofed.You need child proof locks on everything - fridge, cupboards, doors. The only thing that helps me through the rock bottom times is my belief in angels, past on to me when i lost my mother in law. But it will get better. Also I avoid shops and crowded places at all costs. I've had a normal upbringing, no major dramas. He can’t go out unaided and he spends a lot of time crying. I feel like I have failed as a mother and I don't know what to do anymore. A large chunk of the book is dedicated to positive parenting, as the other side of the coin to the discipline. Can't think what it's called but you get someone who becomes a family friend basically and helps mums struggling with young children. im a 27 year old mother of 1 boy. Great advice @Babdoc - I need to take a leaf out of your book! I'm struggling so bad I can't do it anymore I feel so upset, I'm constantly telling them I love them, I reward all good behaviour I try and take them out but even when I do that they run off or play up, if I take them supermarket they throw stuff on the floor and break it like melons and stuff, or they just rub away and hide in rails. Q. Erin, I can’t cope with my husband’s demands. I will keep this is point form Whispa...These work for some and maybe not for others... * Your mind is not nasty....its tired, the dreadful feelings you have are the sign of a tired and 'racing' mind, * This is the same as a physical injury...you cant 'snap out' having the flu...broken leg...infection...toothache, * Anxiety/Depression do release chemicals in the brain...physiological issue...the feelings are the end result. However, please make sure you do it in a way that's best for him. Types of things they do, in the fridge every second, ripping wallpaper off walls, being rude, breaking stuff, tipping all shower stuff away or filling sink with tissue and blocking the sink up, trashing there bedroom and won't help to put it back, hurt each other then they are best friends again, if I put one in time out the other will go over and set them off I just don't know what to do their dad works full time so it's just me. I've ridden my whole life, now it seems every time I try to ride it all goes to hell, I know they feed off my emotion but it scares me as I feel I'm getting to a point I can't get myself back, and now I have this great horse and I can't seem to make things work. It’s homestart that supports families with under fives. If, after talking to you about the problems you and your family are experiencing, the Social Worker decides that your child may be a “child in need”, they will carry out an assessment. I just feel like running away. If I clean one room they destroy something in another room, today for example I'm cleaning the kitchen they've poured cups of water into the sofa and emptied a potty on to it that was next on my list to empty. She does help me a fair bit when it comes to house work and the boys. My Dad has been in an EMI unit for about the same time as yours. I can’t stop it from coming back. If you don’t feel confident at first, fake it til you make it. My poor mother is to the point that she won't even call me anymore, because all I talk about is babies. I cannot cope with my life. I think they see you as a soft touch. Never let the wee shits think they’ve got the upper hand. But now she will take herself up. If he's a particular breed then try to rehome him through a breed specific rescue otherwise get in touch with a local rescue or one of the larger rescue groups. Be 'kind' to yourself. There are sadly a lot of people in the world who hurt others, seemingly more and more often, but there is no sense letting that dictate my life, deal with whatever as it comes.Â, Thanks for your response, best wishes to you and everyone on these forums having their own personal battles ðð. Please help us improve the lives of people affected by anxiety, depression and suicide, Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile. OP - I agree that your children see you as a soft touch and obviously think there are no consequences for their behaviour.I would advise that you explain, in a way they can understand, that certain behaviour isn't acceptable and that there will be consequences if they are naughty. I am obsessed with the news, and all the murders and home invasions etc, that I am 90% of the time terrified of it happening! My two (3&5) drive me up the wall! Take one swimming or something else you can enjoy together-they can be so much easier and much more fun 1-1-rediscover your joy with them.Do as much as you can online/while they are asleep. I can't cope with this pain anymore : ... over xmas now feel like child under constant supervision, but i know it's for my own good, just hate not being the mum in control. Now I am going into year 11 and I have no stress until now. I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! She will often put a cd on or play with her dolls house. Don't be afraid to give them a sound bollocking - imo overly gentle parenting leads to poor behaviour later on in life in some cases (not a criticism, just an observation of the accepted current wisdom). As you could then have some time for yourself and some one to one time with each child. I just don't understand why they are like this to me. Last night my brother had a go at me for shouting at her & something inside me just snapped. Older child with issues causes conflict - can't cope anymore My ex husband and I adopted her when she was six months old. What has been tried before 4. Apparently it worked anyhow. I made some dumb decisions in the past, and like many others got caught up with a violent boyfriend. If they scream and fuss tell them they must be tired and start bath/ bed routine.Lots of people have already recommended masses of exercise, so go to the park, take a picnic. When you've had your next baby I would suggest looking for work even if you only end up earning enough to cover childcare. Sometimes, I feel the … I cant do this anymore, i have no motivation, depleated mentaly, always tired, my mind doesnt stop racing, I am diagnosed as depressed, i take 300mg of my medication a day, and somedays i go to 450mg, which numbs me down, but little less anxiuos, and feel clamer, I am stressed, it is impacting by work, no motovation. All my friends are having babies or already have children. Kids like boundaries, and the reassurance of an adult in control. It's gruelling and pushes every button.Is there any holiday clubs that working mums use near you? I can't cope with my son anymore, I literally have no control over him anymore. Sounds tough. I dont want to carry on like this. (They must have been pre/primary age - I don't remember it at all but it has clearly burned into their memories!!) Also divide and conquer-have one in trolley at supermarket, one in pushchair (take turns if nec). There's no discussion, no negotiation, and it's used for all scenarios from whinging, back chat, through to fighting with her brother, or yesterday, throwing all her toys down the stairs then getting her 2yo brother to slide down them on a dressing gown Hitting is an immediate "3". But she too can daydream in the mornings. that is clear. I am depressed because I can’t do anything due to health and I’m on my own a single Mum. My partner lives miles away from me and is only here 2 days a week, hes the father of my youngest and unborn child. He keeps everyone awake all the time and tonight because I told him to be quiet and go to sleep he screamed in his younger sleeping brothers face and threw a … He works 5 days a week morning to evening so time he gets in I've somehow managed to get them into bed so he doesn't see them as such. This has been my entire life." It sounds really hard, and there is no one size fits all solution. He was great but it would take me all night to try get him to understand what I can't myself, but at least now he knows I'm not avoiding him at nights. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 40 messages.). Firstly... sending hugs!! I broke up with my partner of 4 years around the time she changed and I don't know if that is it, because I didn't think she even was that fond of him. I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try on about 15 outfits to go anywhere. I start questioning whether I am at some kind of fault. Once they’re civilised, you can enjoy outings where they won’t disgrace you and cause havoc! I have a similar age gap and I've worked with pre-schoolers. However, after 5 years I can't suppress my physical and emotional needs anymore. I am constantly nervous, heart racing, mood swings! Try and tidy toys out of reach, then take one thing at a time out to play with (duplo/play food etc). I just can’t cope anymore. and even then, be sure he actually HAS. Babdoc that is great advice! My husband goes away a lot because he's in the armed forces, and I can't cope with being left alone with my two young sons. And there’ll be far less wreckage to clean at home. Derbychick Posts: 554. I spoke to my boyfriend about some of it earlier. To think that high levels of children being sent to school are the beginnings of lockdown resistance from the working age population. Remember all parents have things they struggle with, I found the toddler stage easy-teens not so much! It was a great year. I just had a quiet menacing hiss, a death stare, and an air of uncontested authority! Things need to go back to basics with expectations and house rules. Find your inner supermum skills and take charge! In fact You Could train them to use the toilet so no potty at all - though that's more of a long term plan. They should not be able to access anything messy/dangerous. My children (now adults) were recently fondly reminiscing about the time I stopped the car and told them to get out and walk home if they couldn't behave in the back together. Getting support â how much does it cost? I feel like I’ve hit my breaking point. I'm from the UK and don't no a single person with tinnitus so I feel all alone I wish I knew at least one person with tinnitus . I don't know if I'm a bit too hard on her sometimes because of my frustration and emotions that I can't seem to get control of. Your session is about to expire. I honestly don’t think I can cope anymore I’m so unhappy I feel ill everyday with upset stomach and or nausea. Well as the title says I cant cope with this life anymore. I feel so angry all the time and depressed. I honestly cannot imagine looking after them while pregnant. My son is a nightmare and I cannot cope: I can’t live with my 18 year old daughter anymore: Can't cope with 16 year old son anymore. Stair gates on doors mean that it is harder for them to get into fridge or fill cups with water etc, also makes it easier for you to keep an eye on them. Your Housing and financial situation like are there benefits you are eligible f… Is there a DP in this to support you?I think you need to reach out ASAP to a health visitor, explain the situation, and ask them for help. Â It is an exhausting state of mind that's for sure as many know. I don’t know what to do. I never needed to shout, either. If you see her/him minimum every two weeks... * GP's can be a huge help and venting would be great for you now, * the anxiety and depression do reduce in severity over time which is the good news..It takes time and effort tho, * If you can be kind to yourself...simplify your life and physically slow down....Think Slow Walk Slow Talk Slow, * Sleep...no ipads cellphones before bed..they only stimulate neural activity...they stimulate the mind...not good, *Sleep is an excellent healer and the building blocks to recovery. I can't be sorry for her. sodrained Fri 09-Aug-19 14:42:34. Issues they may look at are: 1. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. but most painful, I've lost my ability with my horses. If they throw toys, take them away. Whenever I fail to cope up any emotional turmoils, excessive pressure or conflict, I distract myself from everything with over sleeping and over eating. I need a word. I need a break, but don't know which way to turn. Sounds like you need to practice being strict- for example if they try to walk around with food, take it away. I feel like I'm being firm but fair. Forum Member. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. He should be a responsible man and look after you and his child! I’m anemic so I just want to sleep all the time, but I can’t take my iron pills as I know they will upset my tummy further. I’d spend much less time on cleaning, and more on activities to occupy the troops, improving their behaviour. Do you have a routine? I think most people must go through a stage of thinking "I can't cope anymore". Can't cope with my children anymore (40 Posts) Add message | Report. Il try keep my story brief (although might be hard given the way my mind is going!). If you believe in yourself, the DC will too. Im seeing a counsellor at the moment for my anxiety and I have spoken to her about it but all I ever get is all kids are the same at this stage but surely that's not true. Join the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak, Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or coping methods on this? I’ve been in bed most of sunday and most of today with an ongoing migraine which I know has been because of the stress of arguing. Some charities are offering mellow parenting courses to address this type of behaviour, help parents to cope, but really OP you must get HV support on this one. That way, they didn’t get bored and destructive. I barely cope with mine but what I do find helps is getting out every morning at 9 and heading to somewhere with open space - the woods is my favourite - for them to run around and explore. I can’t stop being depressed. Please forgive the need to be anon. I can't cope with my life anymore, I want it all to go away. I found a bath every night, then quiet time/stories etc calmed them down-and could also shorten the afternoon if bad weather! My horses have been my only consistent through every bad patch of life and I don't want to give them up, but my nasty mind is almost sending me down that path as I'm such a failure with them.Â, I do not want medication, I don't feel that's the path for me at all, I just think I need some mind management teqniques until I can snap out of this 'patch" too.Â, Any suggestions or help would be amazing :(, I can relate to your symptoms...all of them..These symptoms 'feeling' are awful..the social anxiety too. In other words, keep the little...um...darlings too busy to get up to mischief! But you have to follow through and be prepared for a lot of whingeing till they get used to the new order.And I get that at 20 weeks you are probably exhausted, but it sounds as though they need wearing out - is there a small children's play park near you where they can't escape and they can wear themselves out safely? I am doing a Tafe course as well as my regular schooling, and I honestly can’t cope. I'm at my wits end with this stupid tinnitus in both ears. Look after YOU first, and get him out of your life, unless he decided to get his act together. He has brought this upon himself. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. i can't achieve anything anymore! my partner either stays upstairs in bed all day or … Put things away or try and get rid of anything you don’t need. He is 83 - some might say he's had a good innings, but he's still my Dad and I feel I can't make him smile any more. I dont sleep because my … The past week has just confirmed it for me. If they get down from table at meals just take food away-stay very calm and as matter of fact as possible- ‘we eat at the table in this house ..’ I find using ‘we’ helps rather than ‘you’.Routine is key. So im indoors alone with all 4 children a lot. She is now almost blind, is on dialysis and awaiting a kidney transplant. Yes I have fibro and expect to get tired but this is unreal. She wanted to agree, but in the end she's always going to take my dad's side because it's less exhausting. Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. Signs to watch for are feeling panic at the slightest thing or feeling that if something else went wrong you either wouldn't cope or wouldn't care. I am sorry to hear about your horses too Whispa...Like these bad 'feelings' this is temporary...they will lessen over time with a regular visit to a GP or counselor. i can't achieve anything anymore! Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. This means a social worker will consider your child’s situation in more detail. And so much more, all due to my mind will not shut up! I stay up til all hours at night just to 'keep alert' I jump at every noise, I check my son multiple times! Get DH to help in getting everything secure with locks -you can just put catches/ hooks at the top of doors, so they ca nt get in the kitchen( or whatever room you're not in).Then sign up for a parenting course because you have to crack this before the baby arrives. Their reception teacher will thank you for sorting it before they hit the classroom- she’ll have enough feral kids to deal with. NewAccess â Coaching you through tough times, Create your Beyond Now safety plan online, Recovering from a mental health condition, Supporting someone with a mental health condition, Supporting someone to see a health professional, Just speak up national awareness campaign, Building resilience in children aged 0â12: A practice guide, Signs and symptoms of anxiety and depression in older people, Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people, Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, intersex (LGBTI), bodily, gender and sexuality diverse people, Resilience in the face of change: stories of transmen, At home - everything you need for a healthy family, Helpful contacts and websites for educators, Visit the Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service, Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, intersex (LGBTI) people, Supporting someone with depression or anxiety. I feel so confused most of the time but what he says to me. It might be totally different for you! Do either of them normally go to nursery or pre-school? At first I had to carry her up to get room kicking and screaming and shut the tall stair gate to keep her up there. Similarly with your husband. I have been able to do my school work to a better degree then I have before. Hi lost child, I do feel for you. However I came out of that with my son, and my life is now what you would call as close to perfect as could be. I do hope there might be something here you can use, I hope you can let us know how you are going Whispa. They obviously don’t respect your authority, OP. My 10 year old is my daughter who is a mother hen. My niece also ignored all guidance when she was diagnosed with type 2. Sooner or later, most of us who try to cope with depression feel so overwhelmed that all we can hold onto is: I just can’t do it. You need to establish control here as the adult. He's spiteful, demanding and just so hard to cope with. And consistency. My two just do not behave at all they are naughty from the moment they wake up till bedtime I have tried cutting out sugar, star charts, separate bed times I don't know what to do anymore. Please someone just listen to me for once. I can’t go on anymore (please be aware of trigger warning) I’m so depressed. Today I have turned my back on my mum because I can't cope anymore. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. I never bothered. You can do this, OP. And a hug - you sound despairing. @genie - Surestart, not available nationwide but worth a try OP. But no, it's because we love our friends but don't care about my parents. It's starting to upset my very caring boyfriend as he thinks I'm avoiding him. I can't cope anymore d I've had enough of everything, I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and feel so alone all the time. From a very early age it became clear that she was extremely jealous of any relationships I had with any of her friends. I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try … We don't call it a punishment, so in her room she can play or whatever she wants to do to calm down. I get no help from family at all I get no break unless they are at school which my DD doesn't start full time until late September so I'm hoping she improves then. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. To what extent can you meet these needs 3. I also agree with the advice to get out of the house!!!! Stay out as long as you can, then straight into winding down tidy/ tea/ bath / story / bed routine. Op, it's very normal, small dc are bloody hard work. Save tv for when you are desperate-makes it more of a treat. via YouTube Capture. Can't cope with my ADD/ODD child. I can’t cope with my health issues anymore and nobody can figure out what’s wrong. Be 'Kind' to yourself, you mind is still strong...just tired...like over revving an engine...pull back on the reigns.. Great start to healing by the way in having the courage to post. Try and do stuff with only 1 child -put the other into playgroup/leave with DH etc)-I found they were far less likely to run away on their own (far less brave!). I have no enjoyment, I cannot cope with my children and I can't see a way to get my … I’m 24 years old and a female. I can't cope no more, I can't except it and never will.i wanna be like everyone else I find myself looking at people and just thiking bet she has peace and quiet. They’ll not only trash the place, they’ll feel unhappy, insecure and out of control. Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost. AIBU reducing Grandparents' care 1x day a week whilst I'm on mat leave? * Do you have a GP you are comfortable with Whispa? It's really helping here. I'm very honest with my feelings yet he refuses or is incapable of seeing me. Best of luck. Locks on cupboards etc-whatever makes life easier and stops them causing havoc. When “I can’t” comes rushing out, it feel like the response to an accusation. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. I read a book called magic 123 a few months ago and it's been very helpful. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, especially social anxiety, years ago but have always prided myself on a strong mind that could snap myself out of it, but now, it's making my life hell! She ate and drank whatever she wanted, didn't lose weight and missed doctors appointments. The awaken time I distract myself with internet. We're all clear on the rules, so I feel more in control. I find it really helpful to have a tight routine..doing similar tasks each day...what I mean is... breakfast...Having a wash...then straight to get dressed... Then whatever we are doing that day... Our mornings always start the same... Could you ask your husband to have a day off...so you can have some me time...it's important you deal with this together and you look after your own well being! Meanwhile we knew my parents had gone to eat at a restaurant THIS SAME DAY. in response to your tips, I will definitely try to apply what I can and hope that it brings some relief. * Try to take your boyfriend to your GP with you..It will help him help you.. * Please avoid being 'busy' You can achieve the same results using half of the energy. I'm so tired of fighting them it's making me wish I never became a parent I'm obviously not good enough. Il work on that again. So no potty anywhere near the sofa - keep it in the bathroom. She has 4mins, one for every Yr of age. I think your health visitor would be able to put you in touch with something like the volunteering service that supports young families at home. Secondly...I am in no way an expert...i just want to try and offer some advice/support.I am currently pregnant, so I know how exhausting it can be trying to get through pregnancy with also managing another child/children. Do you have enough funds for childcare ? Staying in is a nightmare! We have! Be kind to yourself. Help! It’s like a whirlwind has ripped through the place every evening and it’s tiresome! In our house it seems their favourite game is emptying all of the toys and mixing them up together I to some mountain of toy hell. And I was able to stay close to my friends and hang out with them regularly. I structured the day when my DC were preschool, so they had a walk every morning, some active play with a ball or on trikes, story time on the sofa, a few board games, half an hour of tv or a children’s video, some craft time doing painting, crayoning or collage, and they helped with the chores. If she carries on then I say "that's a 2". in reply to. I will never abandon taking care of him-as I've told him. I am the world's worst mum I just can't cope with my middle son anymore. Im really struggling and often feel like my only escape is to go to sleep and not wake up. I also hide away from socialising with anyone other than my mother as I can't handle the slightest criticism. If you really can't cope with him and having him is affecting you badly then you need to re home him obviously. You have 2 minutes left before being logged out. But then we let things slide and have to get back on it. It's the life she chose. I get up after a bad night sleep get daughter off to school then I have to have a sit down and I am nodding off I am so tired. My DD is 4 my DS is 3 and I'm 20 weeks with my third that I'm now regretting. This afternoon I am enduring soft play because I’m fed up of them trashing the house in the name of play. I know I did. Together they are a nightmare - sometimes they will play nicely but they also do all sorts of awful things. I just don't understand where I've gone wrong maybe over spoiled them I don't know. If she get a 3, she gets told "that's a 3" and goes to her room for a "calm down". My 4.5yo is pushing all my buttons at the mo and my 2yo has hit the screaming tantrums stage. I do have a GP I find very good to talk to, unfortunately so does everyone else haha, so the wait to get in to him is rather long, and by the time my appointment rolls around I have got embarrassed and talk myself out of it. The basic idea is as soon as Dd starts doing something i want her to stop, i say "that's a 1". i attempted a social outing today, unfortunately came head on with my boyfriends brothers girlfriends, who individually I get along great with, but when they are together one gets very possessive of the other and I'm clearly reminded 3 is a crowd but that's more about her insecurities so proud to say I actually didn't have a meltdown over that :)Â, I will try to take the pressure off myself somewhat, re establish some routine, and get a handle on things. It’s interesting that they behave for their dad, but not you. I kept telling my mom "I can't do this anymore. The second thing you need to do is to stop listening to everyone else telling you that you did this, that, or the other thing wrong. and if you can't even cope with it anymore that is a clear indication that this isn't a good situation to be in! My DD is 4 my DS is 3 and I'm 20 weeks with my third that I'm now regretting. 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